Understanding Imposter Syndrome: Insights from an ADHD Coach

Have you ever felt unworthy after receiving an amazing opportunity? You’re not alone — many battle feelings of inadequacy, especially those with ADHD.

The Weight of Opportunity

Have you ever been given an exciting opportunity, only to find yourself in a spiral of self-doubt? That wave of excitement can quickly turn into imposter syndrome, undermining both our performance and our confidence. As an ADHD coach, I’m Jaylin, and I witness this pattern often—both in my clients and in my own life.

Let’s look at Anne’s experience. She poured hours into crafting a standout application video for her dream internship. When she finally received the acceptance email, she felt proud—until she met her fellow interns. Comparing her background and skills against theirs, Anne thought, “I must have tricked them into hiring me.” Suddenly, her excitement shifted to anxiety, her confidence plummeted, and her performance suffered under the weight of imposter syndrome.

“I must have tricked them into hiring me.” – Anne

How ADHD Amplifies Imposter Syndrome

For many with ADHD, this cycle can be more intense. Our brains thrive on dopamine, so the initial rush of creating a compelling application often drives hyper-focus, creativity, and productivity. Once we secure that success, the stakes feel higher—and so does the fear of falling short.

With ADHD, negativity bias and emotional dysregulation can make us focus on perceived flaws instead of achievements. We compare our weaknesses to others’ strengths, forgetting the very qualities—like out-of-the-box thinking and unbridled enthusiasm—that got us the spot in the first place. As anxiety builds, our productivity and success rates take a hit, and we may second-guess every decision, further amplifying imposter feelings.

Embracing Our Protagonist Journey

Feeling like an imposter doesn’t have to define your story. When I was invited to host an ADHD-focused show, I was thrilled—until I saw my co-hosts’ long track records and wondered if I belonged. Instead of wallowing in doubt, I chose to see myself as the underdog protagonist, like Daniel in The Karate Kid. By reframing my narrative, I reclaimed my sense of purpose and value.

Strategies to Combat Imposter Syndrome

• Normalize Your Feelings: Acknowledge that imposter syndrome is common, especially for people with ADHD.
• Reframe Your Narrative: Focus on the unique perspectives and skills you bring, rather than comparing your resume to others’.
• Seek Connection: Share your doubts with peers or mentors to break isolation and discover that you’re not alone in this struggle.
• Focus on Contribution, Not Competition: Aim to add value and collaborate, which fosters mutual support and reduces anxiety.
• Celebrate Small Victories: Track incremental successes and acknowledge each step forward to build momentum toward larger goals.

The Path to Confidence

Over time, consistently celebrating successes—big or small—builds a track record that quiets the inner critic. Feedback from peers and mentors can affirm our worth, helping us see that our selection for roles and projects is no accident. Every successful effort adds to our confidence reserves and weakens the grip of imposter syndrome.

A Mindfulness Approach

Mindfulness practices can further cement our progress:
• Express Gratitude: Thank those who support your journey and remind yourself of the help you’ve received.
• Affirm Your Strengths: Daily positive affirmations counteract negativity bias and reinforce your unique talents.
• Pause and Breathe: Simple breathing exercises can reset your mind when anxiety and self-doubt threaten to hijack your performance.

With patience and persistence, these practices help us rewrite our internal narrative and affirm that different experiences and styles are not barriers to success but pathways to innovation.

Conclusion

Imposter syndrome is a shared human experience, and for those with ADHD, it can feel especially powerful. By recognizing its roots in comparison and negativity bias, reframing our personal narratives, and celebrating each success, we can reclaim our confidence and boost our long-term performance.

• Actionable Takeaway: Embrace your unique journey by tracking small wins, sharing your experiences, and celebrating every success—no matter how minor it seems.

Remember, your story is yours alone, and your contributions matter. How will you apply these insights to empower your journey and build lasting confidence? Share your thoughts or experiences in the comments below.